Ironman Redefined

I can’t believe it has been 6 years. On this date in 2005 I lost my father. He checked into a hospital in June and never left the ICU. This is always a hard time for me and it’s been a rough couple of days. Today, for obvious reasons, is the worst. I really wish he could have met his newest great granddaughter. Last week when Brynn was opening a birthday present, she stuck the bow on her forehead; just like dad used to. He loved his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids so much.

For the last several weeks I have had this sad and recurring thought. I guess it’s more of a wish than anything else. I wish I could have a catch with him. I wish I was standing on our front lawn on Malvern Road in Ardmore Pennsylvania throwing a baseball with my dad.

It’s something we did all the time. It seems like we did it every night when I was a kid. In reality we probably did do it any night that I didn’t actually have a baseball game … that he coached. He was a good man, and was loved by many people…

I am recycling something I wrote shortly after he passed …

Up until recently, I had a pretty good understanding of what it meant to be an “Ironman”. I knew they came in all ages, shapes and sizes but after all was said and done, at the end of the day, I knew an ironman to be someone who crossed the finish line after 2.4 miles of swimming, 112 miles of biking, and 26.2 miles of running.  And whether you cross that line in 8:30, or 16:59:59, an ironman is an ironman. This definition changed for me in the summer of 2005.

My dad was 82 years old and never competed in a triathlon. My dad had only a very basic understanding of what a triathlon even is. But he knew that I loved the sport, and for that reason, it interested him. He probably hadn’t done any running since his days in WWII. He probably only biked as a kid for transportation and fun. And I’m sure he, like most people, believed that man was not born an amphibious creature and pools were meant for relaxing and cooling off – not for laps. Still, my dad was more of an ironman than I will ever be.

My dad had undergone surgery to remove a tumor in his chest cavity. Surgery itself was successful, but recovery had been a long, rough road. ICU became our base camp for two months.

With each visit to the hospital, I stared at him in amazement. He had his share of ups and downs. Additional procedures were required to handle multiple postoperative complications. Dad did not like hospitals and did not like to be dependent on anyone. So, you can imagine his frustration being in an intensive care unit for so long with all kinds of tubes running in, out, and all around him. He continued to press on. He continued to fight. Even in his times of frailty and weakness, his strength was apparent. He continued to press on even while he was resting. I could feel his determination to get the heck out of that hospital.

Dad fought an amazing fight. But all great fighters and superstars must reach the twilight of their career. It’s a part of the cycle.  Although dad’s will and determination remained as tough as nails until the end, the physical body knew that it was time.  And on Friday, August 5, with a room full of family by his side, dad was finally able to get his rest, and his peace, with the dignity that he deserved. He crossed the eternal finish line. He crossed a finish line with far greater rewards and a much bigger celebration than I’ve ever seen. And I know when it’s my turn to cross that same finish line, dad will be there to lead the cheers of the crowd and bring me home.

I learned more about my dad in those two months than I had in the 45 years that I’d known him. I have always known him to be strong, yet very caring and sensitive. But it wasn’t until recently that I began to fully understand the depths of his strength. I now have a better understanding of the man who earned a Purple Heart in the War, and the man who always remained loyal and committed to family.  I better understand the man who always did everything within his power to provide a safe and happy existence for his children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren.

I saw a man whose credo was to fight…and finish.

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Focusing on Unity

As the editor for Liberty Sports Magazine, I receive regular emails from various news and press organizations with upcoming news and events. Since our magazine is pretty specific to the world of triathlon, and the various swim, bike, run components, much of the news I get cannot be used.

I received an interesting one today about a program whose mission was stated as follows: “Campaign celebrates unsung heroes among Philadelphia’s black men and boys.  Knight Foundation and Open Society Foundations’ Campaign for Black Male Achievement launch campaigns to amplify black men’s and boys’ positive community impact…”

The program had nothing to do with triathlon and I politely responded to the sender explaining that. However the more I read the release, the more I felt like we were taking a step backwards in society. So I added a little additional commentary to my response that I will share with you. It was another situation where I could have and probably should have kept my opinion to myself but … it WAS Monday morning so ….

Hi Marc,

Thanks for your email. Our publication is entirely in the multisport genre focusing on swimming, biking, running, and triathlon. While I appreciate the work being done here, I don’t think I can find the tie in to our magazine.

As a personal and side editor’s note from me, the sport of triathlon thrives itself to be all inclusive, accepting, and we tend to not see our athletes in color. Rather we see them as one; a unified band of athletes rich in camaraderie who support one another whether they are green, alien, male, female, etc. Our hope is that the rest of the universe is slowly finding their way to this same way of thinking and acceptance. I would never want to create additional barriers by highlighting a black/white/male/non male type of a program.

I want to see more promotion of “people” helping people and being roles models for other “people”. Not people of color or gender… just people. We should be providing positive role models for everyone, regardless of their race, gender, economic backgrounds, or other restrictive or limiting group classifications. We are all in this together, and so should be our solution.

Our youth today need to understand that while we live on a plane of living and abundant color, the reality is we need to all exist in a world that is gray…. seeing each other as all being the same. The success of our future will be determined by how quickly and universally the collective WE accept that blended color for all mankind and stop trying to categorize.

The message that these kids need to take away is that THEY CAN ACHIEVE. But that role model can be anyone of any color living anywhere.

As an example, we work closely with many groups who run sports programs for inner city kids in repressed economic areas, and we will never refer to that as a “black” or “African American” thing or program. That reinforces the very barriers we should be trying to break down.

I could go on, but I think you get my point.

Feel free to submit any future releases relating to triathlon.

We’ll all just people Marc.

Regards,

Steve Brown
Contributing Editor – Liberty Sports Magazine

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Accel Triathlete Photo Contest

Can you please vote for me?

Click here to cast your vote

PacificHealth Laboratories is looking for a triathlete to become the next face of Accel® RECOVER, the first nutrition bar specifically designed for maximum muscle recovery. The grand-prize winner will be featured in a full-page ad that will appear in the January newsstand issue of Triathlete Magazine and he or she will also receive $1,000 worth of our products.

Any triathlete living in the United States may participate. To enter the search, just go to SUBMIT YOUR PHOTO, upload a picture of yourself and, in 50 words or less, describe your greatest recovery.

The nomination period will run from June 15, 2011 through August 7, 2011. All entries will be posted on this website. From August 8, 2011 through October 7, 2011, triathletes can vote for their favorite. Meet the five finalists between October 8, 2011 through October 22, 2011. A panel of judges will then select the grand-prize winner from among these finalists. The new face of Accel RECOVER will be announced on October 22, 2011.

The remaining four finalists will each receive $500 worth of PacificHealth Lab’s products. The next 20 highest vote getters will receive a case of new Accel RECOVER, the first nutrition bar specifically designed for maximum muscle recovery.

Click here to cast your vote

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New Tampa Double Ironman

Here is a very nice write up on Race Director Steve Kirby and his inaugural Tampa Florida double ironman. The Tampa double compliments Kirby’s two other races in Virginia consisting of both a double and a triple ironman.

CLICK ME for the full story.

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Dear Everyone in the World

The below was actually sent via email to one person in response to some ”stuff” that said one person is going through. But as I reread it, I realized how universal the words are. So in the spirit of throwing out some positive encouragement to the universe … here you go. Apply as you see fit.

I heard you are going through a bit of a rough patch. While I can’t say that I know exactly what you are feeling, I can say that I understand rough patches. I understand feeling a little lost and broken. One thing that only patience and experience teaches you is that “rough patches” really are just that – patches. They aren’t road closures or endings. They are like dark clouds that always keep right on moving and yield to a brighter sky.

And more often than not the blue sky that does return is even bluer and more beautiful than you remembered. I guess what I am trying to say is that I know your sky will clear. I also know that you are strong and know how to dig in and take a stance while the storm passes. And when it does, you will be even stronger.

Hang in there.

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Enough Already

It feels like we are on day 900 of 90 plus degree heat here in the metro Philly area. Apparently we are not alone as most of the country is sharing space in our Easy Bake Oven. My questions is, just how hot does it have to be for how long before the earth explodes? Hopefully people are training safely.

I have settled into a great 5 AM running routine but I bailed this morning. It was just too gross when I stepped outside. Training is going well though. I feel pretty focused for ironman on September 24th. Generally speaking, things are progressing nicely. And of course the NYC Marathon with Ethan is set for November. I still need help with our cause. Donations can still be made HERE. NO donation is too small. Got that? NO DONATION IS TOO SMALL.

I have also decided to make the trip to Virginia in October to help out the USA Ultra Triathlon group with the double, and triple ironman.

There is a reason.

I have mentioned before that the double ironman has piqued my curiosity for quite some time now. I was close to racing it this year but I vetoed myself. I have been in regular contact with race director Steve Kirby and it was his idea to invite me down to really get the true flavor for this year’s race, which will better prepare me for attempting this in the fall of 2012. I’ll write a feature article on the event as well.

I’m not sure why but I have always had a burning desire to set myself apart. Not above anything or anybody. Just “apart”. Ironman is yesterday’s news and has become way too popular – and too commercial. I hate that….. or I at least dislike it. I feel it’s time to again do something that others are not doing. Much more to come on this. I’ll also need a full blown support crew … so I will be recruiting!

As a reminder, I will be meeting my buddy Todd Crandell tonight for the screening of his new documentary film Running With Demons. It will be good to catch up with him and a couple of his partners on this film.

All else is good. I’ll try to get some pics posted from the film screening tonight.

Stay cool everyone.

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Thank You for that Thank You

Every once in a while you come home to exactly the kind of email you need to read…..reaffirming words that tell you people hear you AND are listening and they care. I’ll keep it anonymous but I would like to share what I just received today.

Not only did I immediately respond to this person’s email, but I also called the number in the signature to say thanks.

Thank you and you’re welcome…. you’re very welcome.

Hi Steve,

Whilst engaging in my daily LinkedIn cyber stalking session (it’s not as creepy as it sounds, so please don’t issue a restraining order against me…I swear it’s in an effort to make connections to help my students and grads), I stumbled across your profile and read it in its entirety for unknown reasons. Then I proceeded to visit your website and obsessively read about 852 blog entries. Again, don’t issue a restraining order…I am just a sports-obsessed gal who loves human interest stories. Just wanted to say thanks for making my day and reminding me to put things in perspective. You’re a pretty impressive soldier (don’t get a big head about it) Keep fighting the good fight.

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The Paradox of Our Age

Wisdom from the 14th Dalai Lama…

We have bigger houses, but smaller families.
More conveniences but less time.
We have more degrees but less sense.
More knowledge but less judgment.
More experts but more problems.
More medicine but less healthiness. 

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.

We have built more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication.

We have become long on quantity but short on quality. 

These are times of fast foods but slow digestion.
Tall men but short character.
Steep profits but shallow relationships.

It’s is a time when there is much in the window but nothing in the room.

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2011 Philly Tri Weekend – All That and Then Some

logoThis past weekend was the 7th Annual Philadelphia Insurance Triathlon; a race that is near and dear to me on multiple levels. I wear a few different hats during this event weekend. For one, it is one of our Team in Training events so myself, along with my two coaching partners Todd Wiley and Ken Modica, proudly coached about 30 athletes in the years event(s). A handful of athletes competed in Saturday’s sprint distance event, and the majority raced in Sunday’s Olympic distance race. My second hat is as a member of the race staff. I have been a part of this event since its beginning and have been a friend of one of the founders when this event was barely a concept. So it will always be one of my working races or “give back” races. And of course my other hat is simply that of fan and supporter of the sport as a whole.

The weekend started with the V.I.P. party held Friday night for various pros, sponsors, invited guests, etc. As I looked around the room and greeted many of my long time friends in the sport, I was reminded yet again, what keeps me coming back year after year – the people. While we did hang out with many of today’s top ranked professionals, and I have nothing but respect for their abilities, I got  far more satisfaction  out of sharing a bite with legends of the sport such as Jeff Devlin, and one of the more inspiring stories of triumph, Sarah Reinertsen. This is the company that I prefer to keep. 

Saturday morning saw me on site at 4:30 AM, making sure my little area of responsibility (from Black Road to “Bike Out” for those in the know) was finely tuned, coned, barricaded, and ready to go. The weather and water conditions were excellent and Saturday’s race went off without a hitch.

Sunday was an even earlier scheduled arrival time. I was actually a little late when I strolled down Black Road at 3:45 AM, jumbo java in hand. Again, I took to my tasks, and again, we had perfect race conditions. I also had an all time coaching highlight on Sunday…

One of my TNT athletes crashed on the bike right in front of me. As I scurried to get her and her bike out of the danger of oncoming bikes, she could not stop crying at the disappointment of potentially not being able to finish the race.  We called for medical assistance to get her fully checked out. Within a short period of time, she was released from medical and brought back to us where we promptly saddled her back up to finish the bike leg.  She finished her second loop on the bike and then finished the run with the biggest smile I had ever seen.

I was lucky enough to see her as she crossed the finish line and she would not stop hugging me. When she did she said, “I was so upset when I went down that I didn’t even know it was you who had picked me up and was talking to me. Once I realized what was happening and that it was Coach Steve who was helping me, I knew I was going to be ok.” That experience, and hearing those words, is like a million dollar lottery ticket to me. That is the very reason why I do what I do.

Congrats to a few friends for some amazing races. Scoogie, Hugger, Midge, and Wiley – congrats. You guys get it and I’m proud to call you friends.

There was one more memorable moment of levity for me during Sunday’s race. At one point, one of the photographers settled in an area that I was patrolling. Never short of idle worthless small talk, I walked up to him and asked, “Hey, who are you shooting for?”. His apparent response caught me a little off guard because it SOUNDED like he said “Bride and Groom”. Of course this made no sense so I repeated it back to him and asked him if that’s what I heard, and his response was hysterical. With a chuck he said …. “No, BRIGHTROOM Photography, not Bride and Groom. I don’t shoot weddings, I only shoot happy events…. Like triathlons”

For complete Philly Tri results visit www.phillytri.com

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